Comments on: Domestic Violence Statistics On the Rise As Economy Weakens

By: John

John — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 12:31:44 +0000

As you can see from the website listed we are very involved in DV issues. I read your comments with interest about the 33% rise in deaths due to the economy. I know this is true but it is hard to find the stats to prove it. I searched and searched to find your home state so I could get the stats from the horses mouth to no avail. I can understand and respect your desire for privacy but would like to know from which state the stats came.

Keep up the great work

By: Saver Queen

Saver Queen — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 17:17:17 +0000

THank you so much for posting about this important topic. If any of you live in Toronto, a great organization is The Redwood. But you can get involved at any women’s shelter – or supply cash gifts or gifts in kind, like clothing – if you want to make a small difference. I think spreading awareness is important too, so thanks again.

By: sonyaann

sonyaann — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 01:48:40 +0000

Thank you for all that you do to help in so many ways.

By: marci

marci — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:24:28 +0000

@Frugal Dad – thanks for tackling this topic!

By: marci

marci — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:20:21 +0000

The problem with being in an abusive relationship is that no matter how hard one tries, the abusor is usually also controlling and manipulative. Their ‘way’ is ‘the only way’, whether it is right or not.

Seeking counseling is a great idea, but usually the abusor will NOT go along and will often times not “allow” the hurt party to go either.

Sometimes the school system can help the hurt partner by giving them access to information, and help to their children. Remember that it is LAW that once a school employee hears of an abusive relationship involving actual abuse to a person, that they by law have to report it to the authorities. Sometimes this is the only way that the family can get the help that they need. Sometimes it also backfires, and the abusor takes it out on the family – again.

For those of you who are not in an abusive situation, if you have it within you, please support your local shelters and their charity drives and fundraisers. Sometimes the anonimity of a shelter is the only way the abused person can stay alive. For those of you already doing this, thank you!

Think of the example this sets for the children of abuse… they learn by example and the pattern can be repeated over and over thru the generations. Something needs to happen to show the children that this is not right nor will it be tolerated.

And notice I kept this gender neutral, as I know that abuse can come from either gender.

By: Janet

Janet — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:08:14 +0000

I lived for 20 years with domestic violence that is why we donate to domestic violence shelters and try to help other’s find a loving real relationship. Know the signs before getting into a relationship, anyone is extremely controling is likely to be violent. In these tough times it is often more of a challenge to find help. Even in booming times it was nearly impossible to find help. However, realize your assets, everyone has them, even someone who is homeless often do not realize what they have as an asset. A healthy body, and a great mind even a warm blanket can be a great asset. Use what you have learn to work your way back up. No one in America should be homeless.

My question for eveyone today is how have you helped someone else today. I think we should ask ourselves this question every day in these tough times. If we all strive to make the world a little nicer place one person at a time/ it will happen!

By: Tyler @ Dividend Money

Tyler @ Dividend Money — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:22:43 +0000

Maybe spouses should discuss a contingency plan for instances such as job loss, unexpected bills, and other hardships?
I’m not saying that it would solve domestic violence, but having a plan, or at least talking about scenarios always helps if the situation occurs.
Just a thought.

By: Rene

Rene — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:30:09 +0000

I came from a a home where my mom was physical/verbally abused. Now that I am grown with kids of my own, I have learned that is not the way I want to live and those are not the things I want my kids to see and hear. I agree with Jeff. It is much harder on the kids. They are scared.

My heart goes out to many families in this situation and I pray they get the help they need.

By: Jeff@MySuperChargedLife

Jeff@MySuperChargedLife — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:18:59 +0000

What a sad set of circumstances! I hope people take your advice and get help before they take out their frustrations on loved ones.

I am particularly scared for the children in these families. In many instances, they don’t have the option of leaving like adults do.

Let’s hope people do the smart thing. Thanks for bringing attention to this subject!