Comments on: The Get Out of Debt Roller Coaster of Emotions http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/ Tips for living frugal while still having a life Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:50:29 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Weekly Round Up: Enjoying Orlando — Green Panda Treehouse http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13636 Weekly Round Up: Enjoying Orlando — Green Panda Treehouse Sat, 13 Dec 2008 14:40:06 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13636 [...] The Get Out of Debt Roller Coaster of Emotions [...] [...] The Get Out of Debt Roller Coaster of Emotions [...]

]]> By: DavidK http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13563 DavidK Fri, 12 Dec 2008 15:35:44 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13563 We're not supposed to get angry? That's such bulls**t. The problem is that many people incorrectly associate violence with anger. Unfortunately, violent actions can take place when one is angry but that doesn't mean that the anger is a bad thing. Anger is what gets us to change the circumstances around us. What about that piece of carpet or door jam you trip over all the time? When do you fix it? When you trip over it and get many shades of angry over it. When do you leave a crummy job for a better one? When you're all happy and satisfied? H-E-double-hockey-sticks NO! It's when you're fed up, frustrated and ANGRY. Anger is a great catalyst in life -- just maintain your limits and many good things can come from it. We’re not supposed to get angry? That’s such bulls**t. The problem is that many people incorrectly associate violence with anger. Unfortunately, violent actions can take place when one is angry but that doesn’t mean that the anger is a bad thing. Anger is what gets us to change the circumstances around us. What about that piece of carpet or door jam you trip over all the time? When do you fix it? When you trip over it and get many shades of angry over it. When do you leave a crummy job for a better one? When you’re all happy and satisfied? H-E-double-hockey-sticks NO! It’s when you’re fed up, frustrated and ANGRY. Anger is a great catalyst in life — just maintain your limits and many good things can come from it.

]]> By: Rob Bennett http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13548 Rob Bennett Fri, 12 Dec 2008 13:14:18 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13548 I share the view that experiencing a bit of anger is a natural part of the process. There's something emotional within us that causes us to overspend. If we want to overcome that on a long-term basis, we need to have a new something to do battle with it. We need a don't-spend emotion as strong as the do-spend emotion. And that usually evidences itself with a bit of anger at the earlier wastefulness and lost opportunities that resulted from it. I also agree that we don't want to rein in feelings of anger over time. Anger is indeed a natural emotion. It is also one that has a bad reputation for a good reason. So you need to take that anger at lost opportunities and transform it into something more positive (perhaps a relentless desire to take note of new opportunities). But you do need to permit yourself to feel a bit of anger for a time. Rob I share the view that experiencing a bit of anger is a natural part of the process. There’s something emotional within us that causes us to overspend. If we want to overcome that on a long-term basis, we need to have a new something to do battle with it. We need a don’t-spend emotion as strong as the do-spend emotion. And that usually evidences itself with a bit of anger at the earlier wastefulness and lost opportunities that resulted from it.

I also agree that we don’t want to rein in feelings of anger over time. Anger is indeed a natural emotion. It is also one that has a bad reputation for a good reason. So you need to take that anger at lost opportunities and transform it into something more positive (perhaps a relentless desire to take note of new opportunities). But you do need to permit yourself to feel a bit of anger for a time.

Rob

]]> By: The Friday gathering - Finger update edition http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13535 The Friday gathering - Finger update edition Fri, 12 Dec 2008 12:01:09 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13535 [...] The Get Out of Debt Roller Coaster of Emotions @ Frugal Dad [...] [...] The Get Out of Debt Roller Coaster of Emotions @ Frugal Dad [...]

]]> By: Frugal Bachelor http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13522 Frugal Bachelor Fri, 12 Dec 2008 02:59:02 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13522 The credit card companies (and other debt businesses) don't deserve anybody's anger. Let them all rot. Don't give them the respect of showing fear. Years from now, historians will look at them (and mortgage companies etc.) as loan sharks who tricked America into believing they had to charge their way to paradise. I've gotten into and out of debt twice. The first time I was 'angry' and worried about it constantly and paid it off quickly. But, right after I paid it off, I got back into debt quickly. The second time I got in debt, I left it on the back burner as one of my life's least important priorities, paid it off slowly but methodically, and never worried about it. It took a little bit longer than the first time, but I got out of debt and have stayed out. The credit card companies (and other debt businesses) don’t deserve anybody’s anger. Let them all rot. Don’t give them the respect of showing fear. Years from now, historians will look at them (and mortgage companies etc.) as loan sharks who tricked America into believing they had to charge their way to paradise.

I’ve gotten into and out of debt twice. The first time I was ‘angry’ and worried about it constantly and paid it off quickly. But, right after I paid it off, I got back into debt quickly. The second time I got in debt, I left it on the back burner as one of my life’s least important priorities, paid it off slowly but methodically, and never worried about it. It took a little bit longer than the first time, but I got out of debt and have stayed out.

]]> By: Green Panda http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13515 Green Panda Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:41:04 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13515 Taking control of your personal finances is definitely a roller coaster. I started confident that I knew what to do with my money. As I learned more, I felt nervous if I was going to make the right decision. As you make decisions, good and bad, you try to learn from them. Great post! Taking control of your personal finances is definitely a roller coaster. I started confident that I knew what to do with my money. As I learned more, I felt nervous if I was going to make the right decision.

As you make decisions, good and bad, you try to learn from them. Great post!

]]> By: dawn http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13514 dawn Thu, 11 Dec 2008 22:29:36 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13514 Back when Craig and I had debt (other than our mortgage.) Our problem was lack of financial communication. It did take getting peeved to finally get our financial act together ... And we learned how to really talk about our money! The more we did talk about it - the easier it became, too. Moral of story ... sometimes a little anger is an excellent motivator :-) Back when Craig and I had debt (other than our mortgage.)
Our problem was lack of financial communication.
It did take getting peeved to finally get our financial act together …
And we learned how to really talk about our money!
The more we did talk about it – the easier it became, too.
Moral of story … sometimes a little anger is an excellent motivator :-)

]]> By: Nicki http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13512 Nicki Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:42:37 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13512 I've got quite the roller coaster ahead, but I'm geared up for the emotional journey before me ... I think :) I’ve got quite the roller coaster ahead, but I’m geared up for the emotional journey before me … I think :)

]]> By: Andy @ Retire at 40 http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13505 Andy @ Retire at 40 Thu, 11 Dec 2008 19:14:48 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13505 I think the last point is the best. Just having that <a href="http://retire-at-40.blogspot.com/2008/10/satisfaction-of-paying-off-debt.html" rel="nofollow">happiness that comes with finally paying off a debt</a> is a great feeling and is a great motivation for anyone in debt wanting to get out. You're right though, it is a rollercoaster ride (isn't all of life) but sometimes it's nice when it settles down for a while. I think the last point is the best. Just having that happiness that comes with finally paying off a debt is a great feeling and is a great motivation for anyone in debt wanting to get out.

You’re right though, it is a rollercoaster ride (isn’t all of life) but sometimes it’s nice when it settles down for a while.

]]> By: Scordo.com http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/11/the-get-out-of-debt-roller-coaster-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-13502 Scordo.com Thu, 11 Dec 2008 19:06:22 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=885#comment-13502 I think the point on emotions is insightful and can be applied to many things (job, family, money, etc.). I especially think that if you want to do anything well in life, then an emotional investment is as necessary as a time investment! Scordo.com I think the point on emotions is insightful and can be applied to many things (job, family, money, etc.). I especially think that if you want to do anything well in life, then an emotional investment is as necessary as a time investment!

Scordo.com

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