Comments on: If Moving In The Wrong Direction, Stop Moving http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/ Tips for living frugal while still having a life Sat, 20 Mar 2010 18:11:29 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Meaghan http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-24277 Meaghan Mon, 11 May 2009 23:13:01 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-24277 Nice story and good lessons to learn! The buddy system is key...I have way too many friends who try to "hide" their financial mistakes from their partner. Nice story and good lessons to learn! The buddy system is key…I have way too many friends who try to “hide” their financial mistakes from their partner.

]]> By: tammy http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23941 tammy Wed, 06 May 2009 00:24:22 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23941 What a great story FD! My favorite boss who became of of my favorite friends, had the following quote scrolling acorss her computer screeen "IF the horse is dead, dismount." I was reminded of it reading your post. If you're going in the wrong direction, stop! Fear is fear, whether it's from the dark, a hungry ole black bear in the mountains or the big fat hairy stack o' debt in the drawer! What a great story FD! My favorite boss who became of of my favorite friends, had the following quote scrolling acorss her computer screeen
“IF the horse is dead, dismount.”
I was reminded of it reading your post. If you’re going in the wrong direction, stop!
Fear is fear, whether it’s from the dark, a hungry ole black bear in the mountains or the big fat hairy stack o’ debt in the drawer!

]]> By: Rebecca Rivera http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23875 Rebecca Rivera Tue, 05 May 2009 04:04:24 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23875 glad your story turned out with a happy ending, thanks for the message. glad your story turned out with a happy ending, thanks for the message.

]]> By: MoneyEnergy http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23874 MoneyEnergy Tue, 05 May 2009 02:45:12 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23874 I like this story. If you're feeling lost, maybe you ARE lost. So "stop" and take a look around and try to retrace what you've just done. Does it match up with where you thought you were going? Great analogy for real-life decision-making. The trick is in how to apply the analogy....in recognizing your own situation. I like this story. If you’re feeling lost, maybe you ARE lost. So “stop” and take a look around and try to retrace what you’ve just done. Does it match up with where you thought you were going?

Great analogy for real-life decision-making. The trick is in how to apply the analogy….in recognizing your own situation.

]]> By: Candy @ Deal with it, simply http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23872 Candy @ Deal with it, simply Tue, 05 May 2009 01:59:39 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23872 You are so right I have stopped moving and now I am going the right direction slow and steady. You are so right I have stopped moving and now I am going the right direction slow and steady.

]]> By: Michael Moebes http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23871 Michael Moebes Tue, 05 May 2009 01:43:26 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23871 Great anecdote with a message! I see folks in situations like this fairly frequently and work with them to get out of the woods. Great anecdote with a message! I see folks in situations like this fairly frequently and work with them to get out of the woods.

]]> By: Ron@TheWisdomJournal http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23865 Ron@TheWisdomJournal Mon, 04 May 2009 22:57:41 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23865 I got lost one time (11 years old) when we went to a friend or my parents home for lunch. He owned hundreds of acres of undeveloped land and I went off in the woods when I saw a rabbit. After chasing him for a few minutes, I realized I was lost. Panic set in and I began to run, but obviously in the wrong direction. After what seemed like hours, I finally calmed down and assessed my situation. Nothing but church clothes, no knife, no coat and it was getting dark (and cold). I decided to climb to the highest point and get a better view but that led me to another valley and another mountain. I went ahead and went through that valley and climbed to the top of the next mountain and found a road. A mile or so later, I saw an elderly man raking leaves in his front yard and asked him for help. He took me into his home/mansion (the place was huge) and got out a surveyor's map. He found where I had started and took me home. Imagine my parents surprise when I drove up in a Mercedes! Funny now -- not so funny then. I got lost one time (11 years old) when we went to a friend or my parents home for lunch. He owned hundreds of acres of undeveloped land and I went off in the woods when I saw a rabbit. After chasing him for a few minutes, I realized I was lost. Panic set in and I began to run, but obviously in the wrong direction. After what seemed like hours, I finally calmed down and assessed my situation. Nothing but church clothes, no knife, no coat and it was getting dark (and cold). I decided to climb to the highest point and get a better view but that led me to another valley and another mountain. I went ahead and went through that valley and climbed to the top of the next mountain and found a road. A mile or so later, I saw an elderly man raking leaves in his front yard and asked him for help. He took me into his home/mansion (the place was huge) and got out a surveyor’s map. He found where I had started and took me home. Imagine my parents surprise when I drove up in a Mercedes! Funny now — not so funny then.

]]> By: Steven@HundredGoals.com http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23859 Steven@HundredGoals.com Mon, 04 May 2009 14:04:25 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23859 I think the biggest lesson here is #4- If you are moving in the wrong direction, stop moving. Many people fail to realize that if they simply stop what they are doing, they can take that time to analyze their situation and find a solution. Instead they get panicked and continue forward on the same path, thinking that is the only way to go. I think the biggest lesson here is #4- If you are moving in the wrong direction, stop moving. Many people fail to realize that if they simply stop what they are doing, they can take that time to analyze their situation and find a solution. Instead they get panicked and continue forward on the same path, thinking that is the only way to go.

]]> By: Alex http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23856 Alex Mon, 04 May 2009 12:35:36 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23856 Honestly, I'm not sure I believe anyone who says he knows anything about the market on a macroeconomic level. Six billion people and countless computers, corporate entities, and so much more is such a chaotic system all you can do is guess. And this leads to confirmation bias. If two experts disagree about a coin flip, one will be right and one wrong, every single time. We have created an economy we can not control, despite the fact that we /are/ that same economy. Honestly, I’m not sure I believe anyone who says he knows anything about the market on a macroeconomic level. Six billion people and countless computers, corporate entities, and so much more is such a chaotic system all you can do is guess. And this leads to confirmation bias. If two experts disagree about a coin flip, one will be right and one wrong, every single time.

We have created an economy we can not control, despite the fact that we /are/ that same economy.

]]> By: DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/04/moving-in-wrong-direction/comment-page-1/#comment-23853 DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad Mon, 04 May 2009 12:25:09 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2452#comment-23853 It takes courage and self honesty to admit that a plan or approach isn't working. My wife and I just had a conversation about this on Saturday. We decided that we don't see a satisfactory change by year end-- it's time for a new plan. We also decided to initiate plans for that new approach right now-- just in case. It takes courage and self honesty to admit that a plan or approach isn’t working.

My wife and I just had a conversation about this on Saturday. We decided that we don’t see a satisfactory change by year end– it’s time for a new plan.

We also decided to initiate plans for that new approach right now– just in case.

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