Comments on: How to Say “No” When Your Child Wants Something http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/ Promotional Codes, Coupons & Deals + Money Saving Insights Fri, 25 May 2012 07:48:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Nick http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-96900 Nick Wed, 25 Apr 2012 18:33:56 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-96900 When I was young, I got most of my toys on my birthday and on christmas. Sure, my parents would say "yes" once in a while, but I learned to wait for those two wonderful days and stay cool the rest of the year; don't bother them too much! When I was young, I got most of my toys on my birthday and on christmas. Sure, my parents would say “yes” once in a while, but I learned to wait for those two wonderful days and stay cool the rest of the year; don’t bother them too much!

]]> By: daniel fife http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-78599 daniel fife Wed, 15 Feb 2012 21:47:30 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-78599 read the Barenstien bears get the Gimmies for this. read the Barenstien bears get the Gimmies for this.

]]> By: Meaghan http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-26045 Meaghan Sat, 06 Jun 2009 00:39:51 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-26045 Saying NO is tough, but ultimately it is in the best interest of your child and your family! Saying NO is tough, but ultimately it is in the best interest of your child and your family!

]]> By: DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25487 DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad Sat, 30 May 2009 12:49:47 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25487 The hardest word in the english language for parents is, "NO". The self-esteem movement is an example of these problems that are coming . . . Too many parents don't say NO-- and we are all going to pat for it. These spoiled brats grow up to become unruly co-workers and employees, neighbors, and customers. The hardest word in the english language for parents is, “NO”.

The self-esteem movement is an example of these problems that are coming . . .

Too many parents don’t say NO– and we are all going to pat for it. These spoiled brats grow up to become unruly co-workers and employees, neighbors, and customers.

]]> By: Aleksey Tsalolikhin http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25429 Aleksey Tsalolikhin Fri, 29 May 2009 19:29:34 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25429 Lovely, thank you. The hardest part for me is sticking to the "no" and making sure Mom sticks to the "no" as well. Your post is inspiring for me to continue providing good care and control. Best, Aleksey Lovely, thank you. The hardest part for me is sticking to the “no” and making sure Mom sticks to the “no” as well. Your post is inspiring for me to continue providing good care and control.

Best,
Aleksey

]]> By: Kate@LivingTheFrugalLife http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25426 Kate@LivingTheFrugalLife Fri, 29 May 2009 18:41:15 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25426 I agree that explaining a NO by saying that you can't afford it sets a bad precedent and also misses the opportunity to teach other values. The child would reasonably interpret the "we can't afford it" statement to mean several things. 1. If the family had more money, the child would be hearing YES instead of NO, regardless of the merit of the desire. 2. Other children who get what they want must come from families with more money. 3. If there's money, it can be spent to gratify the child's wishes. It might be worth the extra aggravation to explain that the parent doesn't *choose* to spend money on what the child wants, and that the parents have other priorities, which could be explained at an age-appropriate level of detail. I agree that explaining a NO by saying that you can’t afford it sets a bad precedent and also misses the opportunity to teach other values. The child would reasonably interpret the “we can’t afford it” statement to mean several things. 1. If the family had more money, the child would be hearing YES instead of NO, regardless of the merit of the desire. 2. Other children who get what they want must come from families with more money. 3. If there’s money, it can be spent to gratify the child’s wishes.

It might be worth the extra aggravation to explain that the parent doesn’t *choose* to spend money on what the child wants, and that the parents have other priorities, which could be explained at an age-appropriate level of detail.

]]> By: Froogirl http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25424 Froogirl Fri, 29 May 2009 17:10:32 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25424 The nice thing about saying "no" most of the time is that those few time when you say "yes," it is appreciated. I also don't answer with "we can't afford it," because most of the time it's not the price tag that is driving the no. The nice thing about saying “no” most of the time is that those few time when you say “yes,” it is appreciated.

I also don’t answer with “we can’t afford it,” because most of the time it’s not the price tag that is driving the no.

]]> By: Frugal Dad http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25421 Frugal Dad Fri, 29 May 2009 16:08:55 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25421 @Rebecca: We had a similar experience recently when my daughter returned from a book fair at her school with a book for her brother. Instead of spending all her allowance on herself, she thought to pick up something for him, too. @All: This was a great post from Kimberly because it got us thinking about how to explain to kids that there is a finite supply of money. I've used my four-quarter budget game in the past with some success. http://frugaldad.com/2008/02/21/teach-your-kids-about-money-with-only-4-quarters/ @Rebecca: We had a similar experience recently when my daughter returned from a book fair at her school with a book for her brother. Instead of spending all her allowance on herself, she thought to pick up something for him, too.

@All: This was a great post from Kimberly because it got us thinking about how to explain to kids that there is a finite supply of money. I’ve used my four-quarter budget game in the past with some success. http://frugaldad.com/2008/02/21/teach-your-kids-about-money-with-only-4-quarters/

]]> By: Craig http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25420 Craig Fri, 29 May 2009 15:58:26 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25420 Coming from a child's point of view it sucks to get said no to, but it is better in the long run. Why? Because you don't grow up being spoiled. You learn to appreciate things more and understand that just because you want something, doesn't mean you can get it. Coming from a child’s point of view it sucks to get said no to, but it is better in the long run. Why? Because you don’t grow up being spoiled. You learn to appreciate things more and understand that just because you want something, doesn’t mean you can get it.

]]> By: lvlc @ FromMomToMom http://frugaldad.com/2009/05/29/how-to-say-no-when-your-child-wants-something/#comment-25419 lvlc @ FromMomToMom Fri, 29 May 2009 15:47:17 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=2714#comment-25419 I am having this trouble with my 5 year old son RIGHT NOW! and is NOT FUNNY! But I am surviving! But he is getting used to the idea that mommy buys food and clothes. If he wants a toy he needs to earn it and is not me who is buying it! hahaha is Daddy! lol I am having this trouble with my 5 year old son RIGHT NOW! and is NOT FUNNY! But I am surviving! But he is getting used to the idea that mommy buys food and clothes. If he wants a toy he needs to earn it and is not me who is buying it! hahaha is Daddy! lol

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