Comments on: Handling Two Financial Houses http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/ Promotional Codes, Coupons & Deals + Money Saving Insights Fri, 25 May 2012 18:18:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: cwaltz http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36273 cwaltz Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:17:43 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36273 My household was military for 7 years of our marriage and my husband now works for the railroad so separations are just part of a routine for us. My husband does call every night without fail when he is on the road to catch up. We have a separate "on the road" account that is maintained to keep finances straight(we are fortunate because he is kept ina hotel so we don't have another rent to deal with but he does have to pay for food). I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on your interview. My household was military for 7 years of our marriage and my husband now works for the railroad so separations are just part of a routine for us. My husband does call every night without fail when he is on the road to catch up. We have a separate “on the road” account that is maintained to keep finances straight(we are fortunate because he is kept ina hotel so we don’t have another rent to deal with but he does have to pay for food). I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you on your interview.

]]> By: sally http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36256 sally Mon, 11 Jan 2010 05:45:14 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36256 I was having an affair with a man in the same situation. Here's a tip- DO spend money on whatever "movies" or internet you may want while away. The pastor is right. Loneliness is hard to manage long term. Have phone-fun dates with your spouse. They are Frugally FREE! I was having an affair with a man in the same situation. Here’s a tip- DO spend money on whatever “movies” or internet you may want while away. The pastor is right. Loneliness is hard to manage long term. Have phone-fun dates with your spouse. They are Frugally FREE!

]]> By: Kristen@FiLife http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36249 Kristen@FiLife Sun, 10 Jan 2010 22:45:24 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36249 Thanks for sharing about your situation. I agree - keeping a positive attitude is key! Thanks for sharing about your situation. I agree – keeping a positive attitude is key!

]]> By: LeanLifeCoach http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36239 LeanLifeCoach Sun, 10 Jan 2010 14:46:31 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36239 I was a routine traveler for over a decade, so I understand the challenges. We have faced the challenge of communication. What we found is our relationship grew even more and became stronger. Our time together was much more focused as a result and we spend time on the phone/skype every night to keep in tune with each other. While I always missed being home, I wonder if doing so would have made us both more complacent. I was a routine traveler for over a decade, so I understand the challenges. We have faced the challenge of communication. What we found is our relationship grew even more and became stronger. Our time together was much more focused as a result and we spend time on the phone/skype every night to keep in tune with each other. While I always missed being home, I wonder if doing so would have made us both more complacent.

]]> By: Don@MoneyReasons http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36221 Don@MoneyReasons Sat, 09 Jan 2010 15:00:00 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36221 In the past my wife and I discussed the scenario that you are currently in. I was thinking about trying to get a job in a bigger city that's almost 2 hours from where I currently live. I was going to try to work out a deal with my sister who lives in the city. Maybe renting a room from her. But we had (at the time) 2 young kids, and that would have made it too difficult. Hopefully, you'll be able to work things out before kids come alone! Good luck! In the past my wife and I discussed the scenario that you are currently in. I was thinking about trying to get a job in a bigger city that’s almost 2 hours from where I currently live. I was going to try to work out a deal with my sister who lives in the city. Maybe renting a room from her.

But we had (at the time) 2 young kids, and that would have made it too difficult. Hopefully, you’ll be able to work things out before kids come alone!

Good luck!

]]> By: Jim Kibler http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36220 Jim Kibler Sat, 09 Jan 2010 13:54:25 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36220 I hope that you do not have to stay in that sitution for long. As a Pastor, I know that people who live apart can grow apart. Be careful. I hope that you do not have to stay in that sitution for long. As a Pastor, I know that people who live apart can grow apart. Be careful.

]]> By: Susanne http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36205 Susanne Sat, 09 Jan 2010 01:27:55 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36205 My husband and I lived apart for nine months on opposite coasts while we attended graduate school in CA and NC. It wasn't easy, emotionally or financially. It sounds like both of you have the right attitude, though. Good luck with the interview! My husband and I lived apart for nine months on opposite coasts while we attended graduate school in CA and NC. It wasn’t easy, emotionally or financially. It sounds like both of you have the right attitude, though.

Good luck with the interview!

]]> By: John DeFlumeri Jr http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36202 John DeFlumeri Jr Sat, 09 Jan 2010 00:36:21 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36202 Never mind the money part, get a job where you will be home every night. John DeFlumeri Jr Never mind the money part, get a job where you will be home every night.

John DeFlumeri Jr

]]> By: Ann http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36200 Ann Fri, 08 Jan 2010 23:04:00 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36200 Best of luck getting the other job. Husband & I did this some years ago before kids. He is a truck driver and took a position long-haul anywhere east of the Rockies. We were renting in a 3-family at the time, so no expense for home maintenance, taxes, etc., but it was costing a bit in food for him when he was away. He would be able to come home about every 3-4 weeks and would be able to take some food with him, but his truck didn't have a fridge or anything like that, so he ate out...a lot! After a year, for financial and emotional reasons, he left that company and took a job in the northeast, so now he has only one overnight a week and for him to eat out that night is a treat (and reimbursed by his employer, as well as a hotel room). It can be a very difficult situation, and I could not imagine doing it like that (gone for long periods of time) again with the kids. Communication is definitely important! Best of luck getting the other job. Husband & I did this some years ago before kids. He is a truck driver and took a position long-haul anywhere east of the Rockies. We were renting in a 3-family at the time, so no expense for home maintenance, taxes, etc., but it was costing a bit in food for him when he was away. He would be able to come home about every 3-4 weeks and would be able to take some food with him, but his truck didn’t have a fridge or anything like that, so he ate out…a lot! After a year, for financial and emotional reasons, he left that company and took a job in the northeast, so now he has only one overnight a week and for him to eat out that night is a treat (and reimbursed by his employer, as well as a hotel room). It can be a very difficult situation, and I could not imagine doing it like that (gone for long periods of time) again with the kids. Communication is definitely important!

]]> By: CarA http://frugaldad.com/2010/01/08/handling-two-financial-houses/#comment-36196 CarA Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:26:49 +0000 http://frugaldad.com/?p=4498#comment-36196 My husband and I are in the same situation as you and your wife as well. Since we are both employed approximately and 11/2 hours apart, we treat each house as our own to take care of financially. We do own both of these homes--no renting. Going from an initial 2 check/1 home income to a 2 home/1 check income has been a real challenge financially and emotionally. But, it's possible as some of us know. CarA My husband and I are in the same situation as you and your wife as well. Since we are both employed approximately and 11/2 hours apart, we treat each house as our own to take care of financially. We do own both of these homes–no renting.
Going from an initial 2 check/1 home income to a 2 home/1 check income has been a real challenge financially and emotionally. But, it’s possible as some of us know.
CarA

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