No Payment for 90 Days – Delaying Ownership of Things You Cannot Afford

Over the past several weeks I’ve been receiving a number of notices from retailers (furniture stores, car lots, etc.) offering me “no payments for 90 days” promotions. I used to jump at these opportunities, but now I shrug and toss them in the trash.

What those notices often fail to point out, except in the 4-point italicized font at the bottom of the back of the postcard, is that during the 90 days of no payments they are still accruing interest on your balance. You still owe a debt, and it gets more expensive every day.

This is like telling an overweight person, “Wait 90 days to start that diet, and just eat whatever you want to until then.” At some point, the dieter and the borrower, have to face their battle and start working things off. The problem is, in three months, they now have a bigger problem.

Most of these types of “creative financing” arrangements are offered to consumers who refuse to face one single reality – they can’t afford to buy whatever is being offered. That’s it; you can’t afford it. If you don’t have the cash to pay for something outright, or when the bill comes due at the end of the month, you simply cannot afford to buy it.

Alternatives to “No Payment for 90 Days” Offers

Save Money. Open a savings account if you don’t already have one and get started saving towards the item you would like to purchase. In 90 days, you will either have enough money saved, or decide the item isn’t worth three months of your savings.

Be Content. Let’s face it, most “No Payment for 90 Days” offers are made on things we can probably live without – new cars, new furniture, new jewelry, big screen televisions, etc. My grocery store doesn’t offer 90 days same as cash on meats and produce. The gas station will not let me start an interest-free tab. So, chances are, whatever it is you are thinking of buying can probably wait.

You can keep sitting on your old sofa (or buy a yard sale sofa, like we did).

You can live with your current television, and if dies, can live without one – lots of people do it.

If your car dies, buy a cheap one and save up the money to buy a more expensive one with cash down the road.

Of course, it is much easier to walk into a showroom and pick out something brand new with a big price tag and a financing agreement to go with it. But remember, by delaying the inevitable bill all you are doing is tying up future earnings in debt payments.

Who knows what your life might be like 90 days from now? Could you survive getting laid off? What if you get sick, or a loved one falls ill? What if your car dies the week after your big screen television arrives. Trust me; these things happen.

I’m not advocating you sit around and consider the worst case scenario, but I am advocating a practical approach to managing your finances and acquiring new stuff. If the aforementioned things do happen, you’ll be better off minus a bunch of debt payments on things you don’t own.

Pride of Ownership Goes Up When You Actually Own It

Here lately, I’ve taken a hard look at the things I own. Do they bring me joy? Do they add quality to my life? I find that the things that were acquired with my own money, not with debt or a gimmicky financing arrangement, often bring me the greatest joy. Why? Because I don’t resent them, like I used to resent a financed Silverado, and a bedroom suite purchased on a credit card.

When I make the conscious decision to part ways with my money in exchange for some item, I want to own it as soon as I leave the store. This way I can enjoy it for its intended purpose without worrying over how much it cost, or how I will afford the monthly payments.

When it somes to stuff, own it or get rid of it. That’s my only two options from here on out.

4 Frugal Ways to Get Your Kids to Love School

The following guest post is from Kyle James from Rather-Be-Shopping.com. Learn more about Kyle immediately following his post.

With 3 young kids heading back to school next week, I have classrooms and playgrounds on my mind. A good chunk of kids, including one of mine, dreads the first day of school and heading back for another year of early mornings and homework. But there definitely are frugal ways to make your kids like school (maybe even love school).

You don’t need expensive educational computer games or “how to” books to make school and learning fun, these tips cost nothing to implement except some of your time. I can personally vouch that these tips will instill a love of learning and help you bond even more with your children.

Set a Good Example – If your child doesn’t like reading, it can often be very hard to reverse that tide. But by reading to your child every night, and by turning off the TV and reading your own books in front of them, you can set a good example.

We did this with our oldest son who really hated to read, slowly we were able to get him to want to read with out any prompting. It takes times and a lot of consistency, but by setting a good example it can be done. Also, let him or her pick out a few books that actually interest them. A kid can only handle so many ‘Dick and Jane’ books before they get completely bored.

Participate In the Classroom – By volunteering in your child’s classroom and going on their field trips you can show them that you really value their education and are willing to put time into making it the best experience possible. Plus, if your child is very shy at school, your presence in the classroom can help them come out of their shell. Also, by being in the classroom and observing, you can decipher which kids you would like your child to foster friendships with. Which brings us to our next tip.

Set Play dates – Following up on that last thought, you can then take an active role in fostering positive friendships be scheduling play dates for your child. This obviously works best for younger children, we did this with our kindergartener and it really helped her adjust socially to school. In turn, she really started enjoying going to school and would be the first one ready in the morning.

Field Trips from Home – The Internet is a powerful learning tool. I can remember a couple years ago my son was studying sharks and he came home from school totally excited to tell me everything he had learned. Excited by his excitement, together we went on the Internet and found a bunch of really cool shark videos (just Google it) that were both fun and educational. He ended up going back to school the next day telling the class about what he had learned at home.

We do this all the time now and I call them our field trips from home. It has really helped reinforce what he learns at school, plus it has given him a lot of confidence. Before we started doing this, there was no way he would ever volunteered any information in class, but now he does it all the time. I highly recommend this tip.

The most important commodity in getting my kids to love school is my time. Time spent showing an interest in their school work and school activities. Believe me, it really has paid huge dividends. Do you have any tips to add to my list? I look forward to any suggestions that I may have missed. Thanks again Jason for letting me contribute.

About The Author: Kyle James owns and operate a website called Rather-Be-Shopping.com which specializes in online coupon codes for over 700 stores, organized in 25 shopping categories. He also has a blog, where he writes about frugal living tips, creative ways to save money, and other musings about the adventures and mis-adventures of raising 3 active kids.

How to Manage Financial Stress

Whether it is from the latest news on Wall Street (the DOW is down another 400 points as I write this), or the pile of bills stacked on kitchen table, economic stress is something that must be managed or it can lead to serious issues.

I remember just a few years ago I was deep in debt, and often spent sleepless nights worrying over our bills. I wanted desperately for there to be an instant fix, but deep down I knew it would take many months of hard work and discipline to get out of debt.

At one point in particular, when a family member was dealt a serious health blow, and the financial collapse was well underway in late 2008, I had just about given up hope of ever being debt free, of ever having savings, and ever realizing financial peace.

Fortunately, we persevered and we eventually reached the debt freedom we so desired. I was right; it did take many, many months and a lot of long days, but it is so worth it.

During that time of economic despair, I thought a lot of bad thoughts. I won’t get into specifics, but you can imagine for yourself what someone with a wife and two kids and a pile of debt might be feeling. There were many sleepless nights.

I managed to keep a somewhat positive perspective by tracking my debt level each month. Every month I saw that number go down was a win. Every month I saw a rise in my debt I tried that much harder to make a dent the next month.

I began to look forward to pay days because it was another opportunity to knock out some debt.

I began to look forward to extra work because it increased my income, and provided a chance to knock out some debt.

I started tuning out the naysayers. I ignored people out there who said being in debt was normal, that everyone had a car payment, that everyone had to borrow money to finish school, and that everyone used credit cards.

I started having mini conversations with myself like:

  • Maybe I didn’t want to use credit cards.
  • Maybe I didn’t want my kids to have to borrow money for school.
  • Maybe I didn’t want a car payment again, ever.
  • Maybe I wanted to live debt free and not owe anyone a dime.

I wasn’t going to let someone else, or some tired financial conventional “wisdom” dictate my life. I was responsible for creating my situation, and I was responsible for turning it around.

In addition to these lines of thinking, I also practiced the following to help lower my financial stress levels (and still do today when I feel the blood pressure creeping up).

Turn off the television (and the radio, and the computer). It is good to disconnect every now and then. Instead of being glued to the television as talking heads pour over the latest thrashing on Wall Street (as I did on Monday evening), turn off the television.

  • Go for a walk around your neighborhood.
  • Call a long-distance relative you haven’t talked with in a while.
  • Toss the ball with your kids.
  • Go to bed with the sun and catch up on sleep.

Whatever you decide to do with your time, stay disconnected. No checking the smartphone or sneaking a peak at your portfolio. Trust me; it will feel refreshing.

Surround yourself with positive influences. I can’t stand for people to tell me everything will be fine when I don’t think it will be. That goes for the economy and many other areas of life. I’m not a pessimist, but I am a realist, and I can see things for what they are.

Having said that, it is easy to slide towards negativity when surrounded by downers – people who are constantly taking a “half is glass empty” approach. Seek out positive relationships with people who are genuinely optimistic about life.

If you happen to disagree on politics or economic theory, or whatever it is that stresses you, just suggest avoiding those topics and enjoy each other’s company for different reasons.

Maybe you can find someone with whom you share a mutual hobby, and can engage in it together.

Find an accountability partner to help get up and get to the gym early on a cold morning.

If you’d like to learn more about a particular subject, seek out a mentor to tag along with and learn from their experience.

I often get accused of being an old fart when I say things like this, but I honestly believe that the further we get from face to face, human interaction, the less connected we are with reality.

Many of us stay stressed because we lack this interaction, and in its place we’ve inserted more ways to stay connected to work, to finances, and to the never-ending, 24-hour negative news cycle.

Those things are good in small doses, but when it becomes a way of life, it simply adds to our levels of stress. Now go unplug for a while.

What Falling in Love Taught Me About Being a Great Investor

This is a guest post by Mr. Moneybags. He has recently written the greatest book on investing in stocks ever written…and is offering it for free on his site (for now). So, go download it. Right now. www.meanstock.com/book.

They say love can do crazy things to a person. It can help some people overcome seemingly insurmountable odds. It brings joy and happiness to a person’s life. And for others, it just helps them get through the day. What did it do for me? It taught me how to become a super investor capable of turning an investment large enough to feed a goat for the day into enough to build a nuclear power plant the size of Nicaragua. 

And how is this even possible? Let’s start by recounting my personal experience over the last while. Then we’ll tie it together to what it has to do with investing.

The experience

I recently got me one of them fancy corporate jobs with a fancy office, a fancier car and a set of fancy little slaves who carry me around from my office chair to the fax machine and back. My diamond-encrusted whip is still in the mail.

So, what can possibly be wrong with this here fancy situation? The stress. I was under so much stress that I could barely breathe. All I could think about was getting through the next minute, let alone the next hour. I would go to sleep stressed and would wake up scrunched in a ball and trying to think of an effective way to get myself fired.  It wasn’t the most ideal situation.

Fast forward to a month later, where I was sleeping when I wanted, where I wanted. I would do what I want go where I want. Every time I would enter the building I would be greeted with a fanfare of trumpets and scantily clad women seeing to my every whim. It was bliss.

So, what fundamental change occurred during this one month interval? I fell in love.

You see, in the pre-love phase, this job was all I had. Every time my boss would throw a stapler at me for making a mistake, I would get stressed out. Every time a client would attack me with a shovel for accidentally selling their family dog, I would get stressed out. Every time the phone would ring, my heart would sink, imagining it’s my boss, an angry client, or whoever calling me to tell me what I did wrong. Why was I so stressed out? Because this job was all I had. I couldn’t afford to lose it.

Then I met her. Then I asked her out. Then we went out. Then I kissed her. And she kissed me back. Then we did some things that would get me arrested if I were to share them online. Then we fell in love.

Suddenly, my work life began to drastically improve. Every time my manager would yell at me, I would sit there with a smile on my face. Every time a client firebombed my office, I would sweep away the ashes while whistling a tune. I just didn’t care. So what if I lost the job? I still had her.

The lesson

So, what does all this have to do with investing? How can love possibly teach somebody to be a better investor? Well, let’s see…

Pre-love

Take a look at my life before I fell in love. My work was the most important thing in my life. Every little marginal fluctuation in that situation would cause a flood of irrational emotions to run through me. Too much of my life was invested in this job. All my eggs were in one basket.

The exact same thing applies to when you have all your money invested in one stock or investment. If the stock suddenly drops 10%, that means you’ve just lost 10% of all your money. If the stock drops 50%, you’ve just lost half of all your money. How can you possibly expect to make any rational decisions if you’ve got all your money invested in one place?

Of course you’re going to freak out if the stock drops a couple points that day! Of course you’re going to cheer and drench yourself in a concoction of champagne and confetti if the stock rises a few percentage points that day! Your whole livelihood depends on it!

Post-love

Now look at my life post-love. I had a healthy work/life balance. Suddenly I could make rational decisions without worrying that my life was going to come to a grinding halt if I were to make a mistake. And even if I did lose the job, I still had someone to come home to at the end of the day. All my eggs were no longer in one basket. The values in my life were now diversified.

Compare that to owning two stocks, as opposed to just one. Suddenly, it isn’t nearly as big of a deal if one stock falls in price. Every fluctuation’s impact is now cut in half. One of your stocks just fell 50%? Sure, you took a hit, but you didn’t lose half your money – you lost half of half your money. Hell, the other stock can explode in price and make up for the crappiness of the other one.

Sure, both stocks can depreciate in price. Sure, I can lose my job and my love. And that would really, really suck. But both of these events happening at once is significantly less likely than having either of these events occurring.

Post-Post Love

As life goes on I’ll get married, I’ll have kids, I’ll have mistresses, I’ll have new jobs, probably a helicopter, hopefully a yacht, new ventures, new experiences and pretty much new everything. And so will you.

When I get married, my girlfriend suddenly won’t seem so important to me. When I get a voluptuous new mistress, suddenly my wife won’t seem so important to me. When I have kids, suddenly my mistress won’t seem so important to me. When I get a new car, suddenly my kids won’t seem all that important to me. New things change the way you see old things; they further diversify the values in your life.

Every time you buy a new stock, the fluctuations of the other ones won’t seem as hefty to you as before. That’s what diversification does. It reduces risk. It let’s you think rationally. It let’s you move forward (and back). It’s a pretty great thing. You should use it.

Just don’t diversify too much – your life or your investments. Or you’ll lose track of the things that matter, and will pay too much attention to the things that don’t. Balance is key. At least, that’s what I think.

This post has been written by Mr. Moneybags from MeanStock.com, a site that proves that investing shouldn’t have to make you want to douse yourself in gasoline and run into a forest fire. Don’t forget to download his new book!

Credit Card Mistakes Can Be Costly

Kiplinger magazine recently shared 11 Credit Card Mistakes to Avoid. Thought I’d pass along a couple of them here, and include a few of my own comments since I’ve made plenty of mistakes with credit cards over the years.

Bungling Balance Transfers

Moving debt from a high-interest-rate card to one with a low introductory rate can make financial sense–but only if you read the fine print. If you ignore or misunderstand balance-transfer rules, you could end up owing even more.

Boy have I screwed up in this area over the years. My first experience transferring credit card balances came in my early 20s. I managed to accumulate some credit card debt in college by using my card for emergencies like late night pizza runs, t-shirt sales at the bookstore – you know, the bare essentials.

One day, I received in the mail an offer to transfer my balance at 0% interest by opening a new account. Well that seemed like a no-brainer!

Unfortunately, I didn’t read the fine print and see there was a balance transfer fee of 3% of the transaction, which negated a good bit of my interest savings. I also made a critical mistake by leaving the old credit card account open, and when the next “emergency” hit I swiped the card again. Now I owed balances on two cards. Ouch

Ignoring Monthly Statements

Reading your bill can also help you understand how long it will take to pay off  your debt. As mentioned earlier, the length of time required to retire your balance by making minimum payments is displayed, as is how much you would need to pay each month in order to pay off your balance in three years. These numbers could act as a wake-up call for you to increase your monthly payments.

I like to say I used to behave like a financial ostrich, burying my head in the sand instead of facing my debt head-on. The very first step towards getting out of debt is to take inventory of where you stand. Obviously, it’s hard to do that if you ignore your statements.

You’ve probably noticed this in other people, or yourself, but it seems like very few people can tell you how much you owe. I used to say, “I owe a few thousand” and I hear others say, “I guess I owe around $10,000″ (when they actually owe more like $13,500). To put together a good plan to get out of debt, you have to first know what you’re facing.

There are other good reasons to check your credit card statements, even if you regularly pay yours off every month (as I now do).

Mistakes happen. A merchant may inadvertently charge you twice for the same transaction. Issuers have also been known to get their wires crossed and post a charge to the wrong account if a batch processing file gets scrambled.

Fraud happens. The waiter that took your card last month at your favorite restaurant might have given himself a $111 tip instead of an $11 tip by simply adding a “1″ to the front of your tip total on the receipt. Trust me, it happens. I used to see these kinds of things all the time when I worked in a credit card fraud and disputes area.

For more tips, be sure to check out the full article at Kiplinger.com.